My morning routine is pretty consistent…Alarm goes off at the same time five days a week. Shower…Dress…wake kids…dress AA…prepare breakfast…get us all out the door by 7:25. Now I always buffer a few minutes in there for last minute snafus or mini morning disasters; however I manage to get LA & RT to school by 7:35 and AA to pre-school by 7:45. This then places me at my local Starbucks around 7:50 (approximately). All that said…I started to run into a very attractive lady during my coffee run.
I obviously know her coffee order…I know that she likes to put her make-up on in the car before she comes in…I know she has a favorite pair of heels that she likes to wear…I know that she smiles when I say good morning. Outside of this I know nothing. I’d like to know her name…and what it takes to make her laugh? That’s enough to start. It is only morning coffee right?
It has been three weeks since I first noticed this pattern. So I went in this week determined to make that initial contact and determine if there is a reciprocal interest. According to Dad’s House it is our role as man to pursue (well at least for us old fashioned types). Guess what? She broke routine. She hasn’t been there at all this week. Timing? I hope my window didn’t close before it was opened. Good thing is that a new week is coming and maybe I’ll get chance to be bold and ask her to share coffee. Time will tell.
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May 16, 2008 at 8:19 am
QTMama
SO go for it! Exactly what approach did you have in mind?
May 16, 2008 at 2:55 pm
OneManThreeKids
I was just going to be tactfully direct. A subtle excuse me Ms …. I have noticed you each and every morning I see you while I get my coffee … you grab my attention and I would really like to know your name – From there it would just be based on her response. Maybe we get to sit and chat or I ask her for more coffee time later on or even a glass of wine. I just want to break the ice and see how she responds.
What do you think?
May 16, 2008 at 2:58 pm
QTMama
I think you make me wish I lived in Dallas. *batting eyes*
It’s great. Do it for sure. And let us know how it goes!
May 16, 2008 at 8:31 pm
OneManThreeKids
Well I am flattered and if I get the chance I am sure I’ll blog about it.
May 17, 2008 at 10:46 am
Amy
I’m thinking just a smile & a nod – so that she notices you, then thinks about you, wonders about you… & then repeat that each time.. then it will naturally morph into small talk, etc, etc.
Sorry OneManThreeKids – I think I’d be a little freaked out if a stranger was that direct on first meeting….
But that’s me.
May 17, 2008 at 7:20 pm
casachaos
Ask her where locally you can find the best pie. Then invite her to join you for some.
May 17, 2008 at 7:45 pm
QTMama
Mmm … I hear Amy but not me. I prefer the direct approach. I have kids, I don’t have time for much else.
May 17, 2008 at 8:16 pm
Nicole-Mommy2Jl
LoL It’s kind of like that nescafe (i think) coffee commercial where you see the girl sitting at the same table drinking the same thing every day and the guy behind her trying to work up the courage to approach her and one morning he finally does it only to discover that she’s not there!
She started making coffee at home
I have to agree with Amy though.
As much as I like to be direct, it kind of weirds me out when people do it to me… lol
May 18, 2008 at 8:20 am
Exception
If you are already saying good morning, then the ice is a bit broken, no? I hit Starbucks at about the same time every morning as well. I think were I to have a nodding, smiling, good morning relationship established, I would be comfortable with more conversation – the more direct style.
May 18, 2008 at 7:35 pm
ss2
Go for it! Buy her a cup of coffee in the morning and ask her if you can maybe you can buy her another and sit down and chat another time- exchange info there. presto… she’ll smile, laugh, wonder how you noticed her or at least that is what i would hope would happen.
good luck.
May 19, 2008 at 7:52 am
OneManThreeKids
Update:
She appears to have broken routine as this is the beginning of week two with a no show on her part. Timing is everything in my opinion and I might have missed this opportunity to make a new friend. Either way…I am no different place than when I saw her. Next time I’ll be quicker to act once the smiles are exchanged. It is my understanding that you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
Thanks for all the feedback. It is always nice to hear the perspective of others.
May 19, 2008 at 1:31 pm
mssinglemama
Here’s how you do the coffee shop pick up …
Get a spot in line behind her and ask her if she’s tried one of the fancy drinks – usually they have signs or something – basically just make small talk. Don’t come out right and ask her on a date. Start with the small talk, see if she’s responsive and then it will lead to other things – like “where are you from?”
Then you’ll know if she’s interested!
Good luck! Maybe she’s on vacation … she’ll be back.
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